Apologies are the only thing which can mend a relationship without any grudge feeling, provided it’s restoring and sincere. Often, it happens when we are in a middle of a really intense moment, unintentionally we hurt our lovely own. As we gain our senses back, we realize our mistake and seek out ways to apologize so that the relation can continue without any grudge for the other. But is it so easy to say I am sorry? The answer is, it takes guts to accept you did something wrong and we regret doing our action in that course of time which may have hurt you badly. Never shy away in accepting your mistake and apologizing for it, as that will only put you in a win-win situation rather than creating future problems.
As it is well said by Lynn Johnston that “An apology is the superglue of life! It can repair just about anything!!” Here is how you can apologize to people you care about:-
1. Look forward to the right chance to apologize:
You cannot go the next moment apologizing when you realized that you did wrong. Seek the right opportunity and pitch in your apologies mentioning what was wrong in your action which is hurtful and you seek apology for. Let them know that you really care for them and regret doing something which brings pain to them. All this can happen only in the case when the offended is ready to take your apologies and clarifications. Hence pitch-in at the right spot.
2. Tell them that you understand the pain and regret hurting them:
Reveal to them you regret and understand, what you did wasn't right, and you respect their emotions. Express that you wish you could turn back time and change what you said or did. Be mindful so as not to state anything along the lines of "On the off chance that I hurt you, I'm sad." Doing so implies that you don't comprehend that you DID hurt the individual. "In the event that" and words like it are modifiers and put the fault on the other individual for feeling hurt, rather than on the individual who conferred the offense.
3. Reveal to them how you intend to work it out to make them happy:
Here and there, it's impractical to correct a circumstance. When it is committed, you can only correct it. At the point when it's not, let the individual hurt pick the result they'd jump at the chance to see. Ask them what they want the person to do in order to mend the distance. With just a few efforts, all can get back to normal.
4. Tell the person hurt, that you regret hurting them:
The step is of utmost importance. Say it up front, probably with a more emotional touch so that the person hurt can relate to it and can understand that it was done mistakenly and you really feel bad about it.
5. Say you care about them:
Accept that it was you who was holding the wrong end, and they were right in their approach up to a level. Tell the person whom you have hurt, that how much you care about them. Enjoy being close to them and work only towards mending relations
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Things you should keep in mind while apologizing.
1. Apologies need to be sincere and for that to happen, never apologize until you've actually realized your mistake otherwise things are bound to get worst. An apology free from pretense always comes from realization.
2. Prepare your apology again and again. Write down what you're gonna say. For things to go your way, you'll need to practice, so you don't stutter or mess up your apology in any way.
3. Apologies are full of emotions. And emotions usually get better of people. That's why you need to keep a clear mind ahead of apologizing. The best way to do that is not overthinking, instead just doing it.
4. Now the situations may come that you didn't account for. No one can control the consequences. Whether the other person accepts your apology rejects it or gets angrier. You never know. You'll need to be ready for any sorts of outcomes.
5. Now that you've done everything mentioned above, there's only one thing that remains and is extremely crucial. Body language needs to match the words you say.
A true expression of remorse ought to be given and acknowledged with the aim of re-establishing the relationship. Now and again, it sets aside time for things to return to the way they were, yet they can be shockingly better than the way they were. Remember "Never demolish a statement of regret with a reason."
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